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kck100  

Hoping for a Secret Santa or a Christmas Angel

I am a single mother of 4 beautiful children (ages 17 yr old girl,15 yr old boy,9 yr old girl,and 8 yr old boy). 17 months ago I was hurt at work and now have four bulging discs in my neck and have been suffering from depression/anxiety and seizures...WHAT A LIFE CHANGE!!! But I have strong faith in god and know I will get through this. My wish is to be able to make a Christmas for my children (or get my heat turned on)...My older 2 children help out around the neighborhood to make extra spending money for them-selves (have been doing this for about a year or so) The other day they came to me with a bag full of wrapped gifts they went and bought for my younger children and said " Mom our gift to you this year is to help you make a great Christmas for our little brother and sister" AMAZING is all I can say!!! So my wish is to be able to make this a special Christmas for them and let them know just how AMAZING they are!! My 17 year old is is graduating this year with Honors and she is going off to college in the fall and my 15 yr old is a 10th grader who is in senior and college prep classes and he is an A/B honor student....I am so blessed and thank God daily!! I am not asking for alot...any little bit will help!!!
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tish76  

I'm slowly bouncing back

I am doing better through the Grace of GOD. I'm not living it the streets. I got my bills almost under control. I'm still 500.00 Short on my gas. However, I want to take this time to thank the ones who kept me in prayers, checked on me, and sent funds. I'm so grateful for you and your compassion. Just know because you help me without a second thought, you will be blessed in a mighty way. You never know who you are helping out. It can be a test from God.

So please. If you are in a position to be a blessing to someone less fortunate or that is going through a hard time. Lend that helping hand. You never know when you may in need.
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sugarpiehoneybun  

About sugarpiehoneybun!

Life has brought much.happiness and much trials as it does to each of us. Someone asked me once if I could trade places with someone else's problems would I ? My answer was quick and without hesitation. I wouldn't trade my troubles with anyone elses. I might get more than I can bite off! I have more than I can chew now! I have so many needs I don't know where to start. I am recovering from knee replacement surgery due to a car accident . I am in desperate need of some dental work I cannot pay for! I am so embarressed because since I was a child I have been all about smiling and making people laugh! Now I have to put my hand over my mouth. It makes me sad because the Lord called me to sing and I can't let my mouth be seen. It started last summer I had a crown on tooth #5 it fell out was lost. We search for it to no avail. Then I had to have the tooth next to it going back in my mouth pulled Puerto an assess as did the exact same tooth lower. I have Rheumatoid arthritis and found out I have a calcium deficiency a bit late because as if I needed anything else in my mouth to happen, the tooth next to my front tooth broke off the other day! I have been undetermined an extreme amount of stress and I have never asked for anything free in my life. I have always worked hard until I was struck down in 2004 with MS. I have been widowed since I was 29 and my baby was a year old. She is now 21)and God has been so good to us that even asking for help I feel ashamed. We need gelatin other areas but I must get my teeth fixed so I can eventually do some work even though I am presently disabled. I will do what I must! God bless the broken hearts today, in Jesus name. Sugarpiehoneybun
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Bugzbee  

Mom Struggling

Hello......I am a single mother of a 22 month old little boy and Im 4 months pregnant and Im struggling to pay everything. I had a boyfriend but he just recently got picked up on an old warrant and now Im stuck here with no money or anything to pay rent or any of my bills. I just got into a wreck last month and they totaled my car out and gave me a check for a new vehicle. I got the vehicle but I have no tag or insurance because I cant afford it. The check was only for 1600.00 and thats what I payed for the car. I cant even go anywhere to get help. My computer is fixing to be picked up because its rented through Aarons and I cant pay it. Im fixing to be homeless come the 1st of April because I cant pay my rent. I cant be homeless with a child. They'll take him from me. I need some help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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saveusall  

Be Like Timex

Well I am back tonight Anyways the slippers they weren't all that comfortable so I got some shoes ,food was brought in to a place I was allowed to stay for a month to recuperate ,Trouble was I was paralyzed lost part of my muscle in my shoulder blade the 30.06 rifle bullet went through my collar bone and exited out the same side back shoulder blade.Unable to sit up from a lying position a friend of my mom who had a hard time with it & couldn't stick around long let a friend of her my age that I only saw in the bars come stay with me(THANK GOD)She helped me to the bath room rinse the drainage areas all the time I wondered wheres mom (her story is killer too,one story at a time!)little did I know about her ghoasts now lurking in her head Well long story short Dad was intoxicated didn't realize he'd shot me at least if he did he wasn't offering that info 6 months later in court state charges him attempted manslaughter I spoke on his behalf to please give him treatment that alcohol had destroyed him they gave him 30 years he died 3 1/2 year in.Ok that is enough Just be like Timex!!!!

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evan0818  

About evan0818

Hi, My name is Evan. I have no real sobe story about myself for you to get money. I am a 19 year old boy trying to make a difference. I would like to do something for the hardest working, most determind man i know...my step father scott miller. I would love to get him a gift that is just to pricey for me. He has taken me in to his family and i want to return the favor. I want to get him a Harley Davidson Motorcycle. I know it sounds dumb but when you think about it there is always something that someone wants that sounds silly. He will never get to have a motorcycle due to 6 children...2 his own and 4 are his step child me included. I am just an ordinary teenager that has seen his Step Father struggle for quite some time and i am just asking for some help to make my idols dream come true. Thank you for taking the time to even read this.
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Clarkjm32  

About Clarkjm32

Hi my name is Matthew Joseph Clark II i go by Joey and I am 19 years old. I went to nascar tech in mooresville, NC but I got kicked out so I moved back home to benton, MO. Everything was going great out there i made good grade and I wasn't getting into any trouble. I soon realized that i need a jo so i could pay rent and buy food to live off of. I went all through NC to find a job but the only job that would take me was teasers a gent. club in statesville DJing. I was glad to finally get a job but i couldn't work and go to school at the same time. I had to be at work at 6 and school started at 1:45 and ended at 8 and i'm only allowed to miss 8 hours or i flunt the class but i thought having a place to live and food in side me was a little more important.  i got kicked out and stayed at teasers a few more months but still wasn't making alot my bank account got into the neg. and the school is charging me the time i was there. Its hard to find a job now here in missouri and I need to pay my bills before they get any higher. I have a son to help take care of and some job won't hire me bc of my credit so i hear so i need help getting my two bills payed so i can start my life over and help out with my son and help me with my life.

Thank you,

Joey

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at wits end  

About at wits end

Where do i start? As with everyone i have fallen on HARD times, i lost my children who are the light of my life(I'm not on drugs) dad had money for an lawyer and i didn't.  i lost my job of 2+yrs and in 25mons my landlord will b getting a warrent to have me evicted.  My problems are small compared to most.  i have gone without food to pay my bills what else can i do?  I have called upon friends,churches, family a few have come thru for me and bought me food and such but noone has spare money laying around these days.  I am at my wits end and am stressing out to a dangerous level....  I dont know what I could use more money for bills or a hug and a strong shoulder.  God bless you all.

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johnmaxie  

About johnmaxie

My name is John Maxie. I live in Eunice, LA. Over the past 10 years my life with my wife has been riddled with one financial or health crisis after another. I would like to share some of those things with you. I had three heart surgeries in a three month period. A doctor gave me a internal defibrilator and t6he wires came out and shocked me. I had the wires put back in my heart and thay came out again. I had the device replaced with a pacemaker/defibrilator. My heart has a myriad of problems including CHF and enlargement. Due to all of those problems Our income dropped off and we fell behind on the mortgage. Needless to say it was an adjustable rate mortgage and we lost the house to forclousure. My stepdaughter blaims me for her mom losing the house she grew up in. I have not been able to work for the past two years because of my heart. My diability appeal hearing is due this September. My wife is an LPN. She has been a nurse for over 15 years. She is the most caring nurse I know. She specializes in Nursing homes and really loves her residents. She took care of my Dad a few years ago while he was dying of Cancer. I Love her very much and want to see her have a better life. She deserves it. She has done some home studying and passed a few test toward her RN nursing license. But because of her needing to work full time untill I get disability she does not have the time or money to attend school full time. She wants to continue her studies from home but the money is not there and because of our past money problems our credit is shot. I am seeking for her a way to help with the financing of her education so that her dream of becoming a RN can come true. We are a proud couple with a deep faith in the lord. We dont ask others for help and we help others when we can. I guess what I am asking here is there anyone out there who can figure a way to help my wife pay for her studies so her goals can be reached. We have tried student loans, goverment grants, and federal financial aid. Nothing and no one wants to help. I pray that this post reaches someones heart and help arrives. Thank you for listening to our story and God Bless You.

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hopefaithlove  

About hopefaithlove

  Well work is hard now.  I never thought I would get laid off. Well I am adapting.  Long ago I got my CDL A   drivers license    I always kept it.    So now  I will find work with my CDL A license tractor trailer.  I will drive over the road for a while.  I think I will like team. 

    I have enough problems with not having work lately. So should be nice to have friend to drive with that just wants to keep moving to make money  and also have things going well in his life   so we work on goal of trucking for a while.    

   But I need to take a refresher course. And everybody wants money. Well found a few companies that will pay for it if I work for them for  8 months or a year. contract

I've been reading and asking about the program.  First month is hard and not much money with just going out with trainer.   I remember  I did this before  a long time ago.    It may not be the best job  but it is a job and will look good on paper being busy and experience to go other places after some time.

         I have no income at this time, and need just a little more money, so I can go out of state and get my refresher course.  I know all I need is just enough for food for the first month.   Sure I have the finance to pay the training. 

It kind of is hard to give money to get work.  But I see it is a investment and I need the refresher course for my CDL License.   I'm thankful  the company is giving me the finances for that with contract of work.

    But I am broke now and no money for food or first month when I know things will be tight.       I had thought about selling my car or even giving it to someone to use all that time if  I had a loan of money from them. 2 months and paid back while they kept the car. I'm certainly not going to any title loan place for any money.    Well I will be out for two months straight after training so I won't be using my car anyway.

 But thats about the last thing I have now and it is great to have  good car that is reliable.  

    I will be training in Fontana California  and need just enough for food and expenses.  I am figuring  2 weeks training no pay and  I need to eat  then I go out with my trainer for 28 days   at only 50 dollars a day.   Then I go with my team driver after that. 

     I can't get a loan now.    I want to work now. But I just don't have the money to survive that time and any money for anything that comes up.  I want to be all in the right frame of mind and eating and healthy when driving.  oh ha  I'm healthy and skinny don't eat much.

    It's memorial weekend coming up also and I don't have enough money to see my child.  But I keep saying I am going to see him and get him for the weekend.  I have enough time to come up with something to some how get some money.  I live about 200 miles from him. 

    After Memorial weekend  I am planning my schooling and new job.   What stinks is I had a job and got laid off. Then I was waiting on my last two weeks pay check.  Then the boss tells me he gave me all  he owed me.   Thats crazy.   That was 1000 dollars that was to pay for me and my new job training.  

    I immediately looked in to state Workforce development to see on how to get my wages.   I filed a report.   It was crazy  I get a letter back from my employer saying I didn't work the dates he said.   He even lied on my w-2's on the dates.  

    Well lucky for me I document everything and keep paperwork.  I don''t know what he was thinking lying to them.  I have to sign paperwork everyday with customers and all  even federal documents because we would do business with the goverment.  It was crazy  that he was saying I only worked for him for a couple of months when it was almost a year and several months.

   Well  I was happy to send in all my documents and paperwork proving the dates I worked.        I looked him my boss up on  Court Access Records for the state and found out many  cases with him for loan defaults and also not paying a previous employee.    I wish I would have checked him out before i worked for him.  I just trusted and was happy to busy working and giving my all.  Then people take advantage of you. Well not me I sent all my information on him to Workforce development  and reported him to IRS then put the word out many different ways to be careful when working for this guy.

 Well I sent all that paperwork to Workforce Development at the state.  I am hoping for the best . Usually takes about 7 to 10 days for a response.  Its silly write a letter with all facts then he writes a letter with lies  .    Then I respond with a letter.  Takes some time.  Its ping pong  back and forth. Well last letter had all the facts and documentation.  I don't see anyway to lie about official documents and all from other companies.    So I am hoping to get my money from that.  But I know don't hold my breath on that. But keeps you going somedays to look at calendar and say maybe tomorrow.  Give you hope when you have none.

 oh ha  I'd show you the  web address on how to look up records from the court on this guy  but I would have to post web address and name.  

   Well  I have been unemployed for some time now.    If I would have gotten that money when I was supposed to all would be a good transition now I would be on my other job.  Not stuck paying another months rent and no money for food or bills.  

 

   I immediately applied at several tempory agencies for work.    But it is harder than I imagined out there.  I am thankful for Craigslist  and Ebay to sell things.  Yes  I have sold just about anything of value on Craigslist.  If I have anything of more value I sell it on Ebay to get the best bid .  

   Well craigslist  I will always go down a lot because lots of other people out there selling things to get by so I have to be competitive.  It is funny it kind of makes you happy to see how happy people are when they get a deal.  haha  you forget you are almost giving it a way for a few dollars when any other time you wouldn't sell it for that cheap.

   I have never ever gotten any assistance or unemployment . 

I have always been creative and blessed to find a way.  

   Well for now I am praying for that 1000 dollars from my last two weeks check.   But that  pays for  bills electrical, phone, gas and food.  I also need to get my glasses for driving. Thats more money    It would be great if that check came before Memorial day so I can spend time with my boy.  

   

Any help or advice or a loan for holding my car,  any ideas.  

This sitting and waiting when there is a plan  is hard. Timing is just not there.     

             Life is what happens when making plans for something else.

I know better things are just around the corner and in my sites. But I seem to be stuck in quicksand and sinking but with a nice view of a little hope.  But no way to get  at it and reach out.      I pray if I just had a couple weeks work. I could get out of this  temporary work or any project .   I put ads up on internet for will work  handyman, mow lawns, computer help. I get a little but not enough to put my plan into action.  

  I have even thought well I am not making any money  I might as well be some place volunteering or teaching some kids  Teaching English in latin american country just to be some hope and a happy face in someones life.  It a good feeling to see kids happy and learning and having hope in the world.  Let not let the kids have to face what we face  but lets still make them stronger and better.     Well I might do that sometime soon once I get back on my feet and out of this quicksand.     

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Starshine  

Is the Economy Really Improving?

I don't think so but my manager thinks it is as he has rented all the apartments now. To me that doesn't mean the ecomony is improving.

When I see people's stories, here on Aidpage,wishuponahero or a few other sites I visit people are still faced with needing to find work, having money for rent, utilities, food, need for new clothing, medicine, health insurance, food for their pets, help with phone and internet bills. Then if you are sick, disababled or have a child, loved one who is ill or terminally ill the problem is compounded. They don't feel the economy is improving. And the unemployment rates show that so why is my manger being fooled?

Even those who have jobs I know or have met still are struggling making ends meet. I think it is better to have a job than not have one. 

Then you can apply for section 8 or hud housing but there is a waiting list sometimes it take years others maybe a year if you find a city that has a shorter waiting list but some people can't wait that long. 

I really wish it would start improving for all of us as it hurts to see people hurting even though I can offer assistance here, tell people about Aidpage in hopes they might be able to get help they didn't know about. 

I wish I could do a heck of a lot more finanicially to help others out. 

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arthur59  

About arthur59

hi, this is arthur hill. I want no pity! I am currently broke,sleeping in a tent in the woods.I have applied for assistance. I have a bad left knee thats healing very slowly,no tears please. An act of kindness would be very much appreciated. A warm winter coat, mittens, a little pocket jingle.I am  at the Davis center and the bailey-howe library every day. I will give you a contact # for verification of my situation. thanks and God bless to All. cutie huestis:802-238-4791

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dreamer2  

About dreamer2

I need help with depression, I need someone to talk to about things, I need a car to get around in and I am living in a shelter

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straightfoward19  

The everyday struggle

Welcome to my everyday struggle post feel free to talk about your problems and struggles here and get positive feedback from eothers that may be experiencing the same thing

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toodywoo  

About toodywoo

Hi I am a single mama of 3 wonderfull kids who has fallen on some really hard times, and need some help. So with that said if you have some time to read my story I hope in some way, somewhere out there some one can help.  As i said I am a single mama of 3 young kids, my youngest being severely mentally, and physically disabled he suffers from ataxia, torta collis, oral motor apraxia, and autism.  Our luck turned for the worst when I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, the doctors only gave me 2 months to live.  well I am proud to announce that i have recently beat those odds and newely became in remission.  However due to my illness, i have lost my job, and am still not well enough to return to work, on top of everything i am dealing with my sons disability's.  I have lost everything i own, I have sold off all my furnishings just to pay the rent, and now have nothing left to sell to keep a roof over our heads my doctor will not release me back to work untill october early november.  now i am in a situation where the bills are pilling up, and i may be getting evicted in september if i do not have the rent.  I need help and have no family or support to turn too,  please help my family, anything you can do for us would be much appreciated.

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Mike's Sister  

About Mike's Sister

Hi, My name is Jen, Im writing here because my brother is in desperate need for help. He is the most kind and generous person you will ever meet and now hard times have fallen on him and his wife. His wife Amie was laid off last year from her job at a newspaper in Maryland and then on top of that the house they own is falling apart around them. The foundation is cracked the roof is caving in the bathroom. Then this past April my brother lost his job as a Construction Supervisor, obviously because of the econmy. So they are struggling right now to pay the mortgage because unemployment is giving them both issues about helping them. Then they are expecting there first child (a little boy) in October. So needless to say when it rains it pours and now myself & the family have helped as much as we can but there is only so much one person can do because everyone else has there own bills to pay. And my brother is a very independent guy and he would never write something like this so that is why Im doing it, because like I had said before he is such a great guy and is giving to other people and now he needs help. So any advice that anybody can give me would be wonderful.

 

Thanks & God Bless!

Jen

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ccgirl  

About ccgirl

This is my first time here. I just heard about this site today.  I don't know if anyone can help me but here goes.

I am in my mid 40's and I've raised 4 children alone. My youngest just turned 18 last month. She still lives with me and helps me at times as I am disabled.  I am in appeals with social security disability and we had been living on the social security my daughter got in survivor benefits since my kids' father died in 2001.  Now we have no income and I am losing my medical on April 1st.  Nice April fools huh?!  I have several doctors and take 15 medications a day that I will now have to pay for out of pocket.  Unfortunately... my pockets are empty. I deal with depression every day - even though I take antidepressants.  Everything just seems to be bad right now.  I know it will get better, it has too.  My daughter is still in school as she has some learning disabilities, so we should be able to continue getting her social security but it takes 2 to 3 months to get it going again.  That's what I've been told anyway.

My life hasn't always been as bad as it is right now.  I used to work and made pretty good money... well, to me it was pretty good.  It was enough, and that's what was important.  I am oh HUD so I don't have to pay rent while we have no income but the gas and power people aren't so kind.  My sister is staying with us and helping with bills though so that is good.  There are things I'd like to have though that aren't urgent but would really be nice to have.  My purse is falling apart and me and my daughter both really need shoes and socks and even pants.    I really don't know if posting on this site will help, but I hope so.  Even if someone just takes the time to read my post, that will be nice.  I guess it helps to write it all down.  I can't write everything though, I have carpal tunnel and neuropothy and my hands get tired and sore.  I was diagnosed with diabetes a few months ago.  The meds are helping alot and I have changed the way I eat.  I've lost 20 pounds in 5 months - and with no working out or anything.  It is hard for me to work out, but I am careful what I eat now. 

So, this is a little about me.  I don't know if anyone will comment or anything, but here it is, part of my story.  I hope all is well with you, whoever you are.

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TMills  

About TMills

Hi,

 

My name is Terry.  I'm a single parent with 4 school age children. Sure life is hard, but stuff like this helps. It helps if only to have an avenue for venting. Thanks! 

I've been out of work since April,2008.

By the Grace of God, we're hanging tough. I know the Father is good all the time. 

Even when things seem bad. 

My story is this:

We've been blessed with a wonderful home that we've lived in since 9/2007.

I'm currently buying from the owner on a lease to purchase agreement. So I don't really qualify for any government help, and that's okay.

Because of my unemployment, I fell behind on my payments, but recently caught up Thanks to my tax refund. Not to mention that the people I'm buying the house from are truly God sent Angels.

I recently applied for a job with the U.S. Census. Guess what? I got the job!!!

Of course there's a catch, there always is. 

You must have a valid drivers license, my is suspended. No,  I'm not a bad driver, just a broke one. I was stopped twice in one year. For no particular reason, but I was given 2 tickets each time: 1 for no proof of ins. & no valid drivers license. The next time for no proof of ins. and driving on a suspended license. Which by the way was suspended because I couldn't afford to pay for the first 2 tickets.

Oh, it gets worse. In 2007 on the day that I got the keys to my new house, this man hit me.

The police report stated that the accident was totally the other drivers fault, but because my license was suspended I got the ticket. 

So as it goes I have until 3/23/2009, to clear up my license or forfeit my new job. 

Of course I have no money, but I do have resources......Jesus!

So I will keep you posted on my progress. And believe me it will be progress.

 No I don't know where the money is coming from, I only know that IT IS COMING!!!

So for anyone out there who is discouraged ,who's faith maybe dwindling, who feels that things happen for other people but not for them.  Don't Fret. I too used to be one of those people, and still at times have a hard time remembering whom I belong to.

Please know that JESUS is REAL, with a capital R.

No matter how things seem, they can always be worse..... or better.

God Bless

 

 

 

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mom e of 4  

we wish we could help you all

Dear Friends In Need of help,

We are so sorry that we could not help more families at this time with rent,  each post sent, was read and caused many to shed tears, No one had the heart to pick which familes were in the worst condition so we decided to have a drawing the families have been notified and gave permission for us to post thier names,  The Simmons Family from Lansing MI, The Bonkowski Family from Baltimore, Md, and The Dawson Family from Chicago, IL.....  Please dont be to upset your name was not picked we have saved all post and we are now currently trying to raise funds to have this same program next month. IIf your family submitted a request for assistance in Febuary we will automaticly re enter your name. Also some of the ladies have donated time to help out so if we can help you located a certain program for assitance in your state please let us know what you need.. Thanks so much for allowing us on this site and as the funds come in we will make sure they go out to help the people in need on aidpage...... 

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amomswish75  

losing everything..So fast

It's almost christmas and still no tree.I have managed to get $50 together and put some gifts on layaway for the 2 little one's but i am completely freaking out beacuse i have no gifts for my 2 oldest.My landlord dropped off a 3 day yesterday and i am SOO SCARED!! I don't have family and noone to turn to.I have a neck injury and am waiting for ssi to give me court hearing which takes up to a year.I am forced to attempt to go back to work as a cna but i don't have the $50 plus $15 for a cpr class and book! Hard times is a understatement for sure at this point. May god Bless all of us during these testing times......

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